Don’t Judge the Book by its Look!

Every­one has a fatal flaw of pre-judgement.  We always judge too quickly about some­one on their social sta­tus, achieve­ments and capa­bil­i­ties when we first approach them.  This is some­what unavoid­able and ingrain in our men­tal mod­els.  What lies behind their mask may be some­thing totally oppo­site to what you always believe.  He may not be what you think either from a good point or bad point of view.  Find out what you maybe think­ing of a per­son here.

1. The per­son maybe more capa­ble then what you think – There are times when you take a glance of a per­son and he will give you that no-confidence look.  The assur­ance that he is able to give is almost zero.  But amaz­ingly, at times of cri­sis, or crit­i­cal sit­u­a­tion, he is able to deliver as what you want.  He may not be able to shine in his nor­mal self, but at extreme sit­u­a­tions, he out­shone every­one in his capa­bil­i­ties.  Now look­ing back, if you did feel he is inca­pable, you may feel that you’ve already made a wrong judge­ment from the start!
2. The per­son maybe less capa­ble then what you believe he to be – Usu­ally such peo­ple are good in deliv­er­ing qual­ity lip ser­vices.  They promise the whole uni­verse for you.  But when it comes down to the crunch, they are unable to deliver what they promised to you.  They dodge ques­tions.  The shift respon­si­bil­i­ties.  How­ever, the prob­lem is, you never know if they are capa­ble in the first place.  Unless you are really really good in deter­min­ing a person’s true char­ac­ter.  What you should do is to give your­self time to observe this per­son.  Make him win your trust in his capa­bil­i­ties.  Take his words at face value till he can uphold what he is capa­ble of.
3. You never know who you will end up with – By hav­ing the wrong impres­sion of a per­son that he is not capa­ble enough, you are likely going to look down on him or his achieve­ments.  Now, with the world so small and the indus­try that you are work­ing in small as well, there will be a likely chance that you will meet the same per­son again (espe­cially in a small coun­try).  Don’t offend the per­son as his achieve­ments one day may be greater than you.  You might need his help in future too!  Do not be a snob now!  You will regret for doing that in future.  Learn to be mod­est when you are meet­ing people.

Our imme­di­ate advice to you on judg­ing peo­ple is, do not judge peo­ple in the first place.  We are no good judge our­selves and it’s best to keep our mod­est opin­ion on oth­ers to our­selves.  Give some room for doubts.   Learn to observe the per­son more, find out if he hon­ours what he com­mit­ted to do.  If a per­son is always under­per­form­ing in your eyes, give some room for doubts.  He may not be what you believe he is to be.  Learn not to jump into con­clu­sion after meet­ing the per­son.  Time will truly tell if the per­son is worth what type of per­son he is.  Again, the say­ing goes, “Don’t Judge the Book by its Look!”

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