How Do You Get Your Peers to Like You?

The way to influ­ence your col­leagues is to get them to like you.  That’s the basic right? Regard­less of it is your supe­rior, sub­or­di­nates or your peers you will need them to like you before you can get them to believe what you are propos­ing.  Objec­tively, here, we are not show­ing the meth­ods to be a first class boot-licker nor are we rec­om­mend­ing you to brain-wash your­self to what the per­son you are influ­enc­ing is.   We are offer­ing you meth­ods that will make you gen­er­ally pleas­ant, approach­able and lov­able by your peers.  How do you do that?

1. Be a capa­ble col­league – That is to able deliver the results as per what you com­mit­ted and agreed with your col­leagues.  This is a work place.  What is impor­tant is the amount of work deliv­ered.  The qual­ity of work deliv­ered.  What your peers or bosses are look­ing for is if you are capa­ble of deliv­er­ing and not if you are approach­able to take on the tasks!  At the base­line, you are judge by your abil­ity not your friend­ship level.  Just think, who will you look for to do a project together when you are being assigned one?  You will always look for those capa­ble ones to team up with, right?
2. Be a friendly col­league – After your col­leagues feel that you are trust­wor­thy in deliv­er­ing results and abil­i­ties assured, you are now judged by your approach­a­bil­ity.  Are you friendly enough that col­league are com­fort­able to approach you for help?  Or you always giv­ing a black face in front of them that they feel you are “untouch­able”?  Be friendly, and you’ll be sur­prised that you will have more col­leagues approach­ing you and you might be hap­pier too!
3. Be hon­est – What­ever you do, be hon­est.  Your peers will be unpleased when they find out that their col­league is not hon­est.  Nobody likes to work with a liar (minus those that tells a white lie or a lie that is ben­e­fi­cial for the entire team).  If you do not know cer­tain things at work, admit it.  Do not attempt to cover up your­self.  If you can’t deliver as per the spec­i­fied time line, admit the prob­lem that you have.  In the long run, when your cover is blown, you get an even big­ger dis­con­tent among your peers than ever before!
4. Be empathic – Being friendly involves the abil­ity to lis­ten with your heart.  Your col­leagues will not want to be patro­n­ised.  They want good advice from the heart. If you exer­cise empathic lis­ten­ing at work, we believed that you have quite a fair amount of influ­ence on your col­leagues. J
5. Smile – Lastly, smile! And smile often.  Smil­ing breaks the cold wall bar­ri­ers between indi­vid­u­als!  The more you smile to your col­leagues at work, the more likely they feel you are friendly and approach­able.  They will list you as one of the can­di­dates of a poten­tial team mate.

So, with these meth­ods, you will def­i­nitely find your­self in a posi­tion that every­one wants to approach you.  Do you have other meth­ods that make peo­ple want to approach you instead?

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